I have occasionally shared with people my strategy of appearing nice and pliable, because it's so much easier to get away with things. If they don't see it coming, they can't stop it, you know? Apparently, Marjane Satrapi ascribes to a similar philosophy:
"It is better not to look like what you are; it is better to look like a bourgeois woman because then all the doors are open for you and then you can just go and make hell. That is much more exciting."